Job offer, Im scared lol...

Cyberscum

Well I finally received a job offer from an agency I have been scouting for some time now. The job sounds amazing with lots of tech work and working with a world class group of people. The problem is that it is literally across the nation…My wife and I have always talked about moving and how much we hate where we live etc… But now that the time is here we are both kinda shocked and nervous. We will be moving to a huge city and literally will not know a single person. The job will require travel about 3 times a year for 2 weeks a session. I don’t know, it is an amazing opportunity, but for some reason I think that everything is going to go bad.Any thoughts or has anyone made a major move like this with a family? How did it turn out?

cyberguypr

If you are well-prepared and do your homework you will prevail. I packed my stuff and moved 2000 miles away back in 2006. Still no family or anyone here. Best thing that ever happened to me. Still have friends back home that want to move and the fear of the unknown won't let them.

mr.comfortably

Do it, but take your little brother

nerdinhiding

I have been in your shoes. Three years ago I moved my family about 1200 miles away for a new job. The job ended up not being what was promised and after 6 months I decided to come back home and was rehired at my original company (always leave on good terms). Now 3 years later things are stagnant again and I am looking to move again if its the right fit. Moral of the story: even if you hate it and feel like it's a failure after you get there, down the road you will look back and see that it will still be one of the best learning experiences in your life. And if it turns out great, that' even better. Look at it as a win - win. I know that can be a challenge to do when family is involved and depending on you.

MeanDrunkR2D2

Did the same thing earlier this year, however it was my wife that got the job offer that we couldn't turn down, figuring I could do IT work anywhere. Best decision we have made as we are now at least 5 hours from any family (which we really didn't see all that often when we were in the same city with them), but for a career perspective, everything is working out perfectly for us now as I now have a better career forward job I'll be starting soon (took a contract blah job to be working when we got here) and our income has increased 25% in our household because of these moves.

networker050184

I've done it a few times. I love moving to a new city not knowing much about it or anyone there. I also get bored easy and ready to move on in six months to a year though so if you are the type that loves the same old routine it might be pretty stressful.

Itrimble

If I was being hired by a 3 letter company, or a 9 letter company starting with M, I would take it. Congratulations!

shodown

I've done it quite a few times, its fun if your an outgoing person. There can be some challeneges with family, but you can get networked in with people who can help you out. Also congrats on the 3 letter agency have fun, and lots of laughs. I worked at a few. Good luck,lol

LeBroke

Cyberscum wrote: »

Well I finally received a job offer from a three letter agency I have been scouting for some time now.

Remember, if it doesn't work out, there will be a job offer waiting for you in Russia anyway!

kohr-ah

I get scared when going to a new job in general and have questioned even after the move if it is the right thing (I think having 2 kids does this to me). Just go and give it a shot! You will never know unless you go see and if it doesnt work out just find something else in that area but at least you will have a job until then

Edward22_Tech

Cyberscum wrote: »

Well I finally received a job offer from an agency I have been scouting for some time now. The job sounds amazing with lots of tech work and working with a world class group of people. The problem is that it is literally across the nation…My wife and I have always talked about moving and how much we hate where we live etc… But now that the time is here we are both kinda shocked and nervous. We will be moving to a huge city and literally will not know a single person. The job will require travel about 3 times a year for 2 weeks a session. I don’t know, it is an amazing opportunity, but for some reason I think that everything is going to go bad.Any thoughts or has anyone made a major move like this with a family? How did it turn out?

Could you put your stuff in long term storage and move to the City in which your new job is but stay in a short term corporate type deal? That way you "feel out" the City/Company and in 2 weeks, 1 month, 2 months you don't like it just move back.

I'm planning a move to Seattle like this. When I take my job offer I'll put all my stuff in long term storage and do a short term furnished deal for a month to see how things go.

I just don't have the mindset to go "This is a 100% deal let's go all in." There are too many uncertainties so I'd personally leave bail room and have plan B already lined up (i.e. already scouting other jobs).

Blackout

kohr-ah wrote: »

I get scared when going to a new job in general and have questioned even after the move if it is the right thing (I think having 2 kids does this to me). Just go and give it a shot! You will never know unless you go see and if it doesnt work out just find something else in that area but at least you will have a job until then

This is spot on, when I was in the military I had no issues moving around. Now that I am out and in the civilian world Im nervous about new roles, because I have a family to care for, If I was single without a son would be much less stress and anxiety.