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Anyone else love and hate when their significant other calls you out?
Happened to me yesterday and bless her soul she is right.
"you don't seem to be as motivated about your ccna as you were your other certifications"
I wanted to be mad but she is right, i have been slacking on my studies, anyone else have this happen to you? I know its the holidays and it can get in the way, but this is something i need to get done, and im just not motivated right now like i was last month. How did you get over lack of motivation?
Happened to me yesterday and bless her soul she is right.
"you don't seem to be as motivated about your ccna as you were your other certifications"
I wanted to be mad but she is right, i have been slacking on my studies, anyone else have this happen to you? I know its the holidays and it can get in the way, but this is something i need to get done, and im just not motivated right now like i was last month. How did you get over lack of motivation?
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"Practice doesn't make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect"
Vincent Thomas "Vince" Lombardi
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A certification is not worth the fight with your other half
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True Story. Been there, done that, won't do it again. Ever.
"Practice doesn't make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect"
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True.... mine is actually the opposite.. she'd rather have me not be on a computer at all. I can barely even find time to do "labs" so I basically need to do it at work.. thank god yours wants you to get certified.
I'm glad you guys have someone so supportive. Be grateful
That covers it. It's so much easier when you are both onboard. For example, I was going to wait until next spring/summer to start the B.S. IT. My wife thought I'd be going to a B&M school. When I said it's full online, she told me to go downstairs and apply. Boom. Done.
hehehe..mine too, once the working day is over she has lots of plans for my time. Unfortunately I dont have time at work to study so it's all a bit difficult
Love your wife, like your career. It takes longer to get qualified but you do tend to stay married.
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Amen Brotha!
She called me out for procrastinating, which she does frequently. My defense is typically that I am working through it in my head, which is normally true... but it wasn't this time. I am not sure if I can pin my lack of motivation on one thing... but I just need to keep plugging away...
A) Course content this semester essentially assumes a political view that is the exact opposite of my own.
C) Helping my wife through her ongoing medical issues while she is trying to go to school (these issues have recently become more burdensome due to some daily treatments, but hopefully these improve the situation in the long run).
Anyhow... if I can just make it through this semester, I will be half way done with this program. I really want to wrap it up by next December, but that will require taking a summer course and getting a student loan for that. As much I as I kept telling myself that I had no rush to finish an MS, I am now feeling self-imposed pressure because I will be able to teach adjunct after this, which could be rather useful, financially (and personally fulfilling).
I have been able to get into a good groove at work lately with some new music. I think getting consistent progress on my current project has reduced my work-related stress. Now if I can just translate that into some progress elsewhere.
this weekend was supposed to be my weekend to study for my upcoming 70-680 and 685 certs. well.... she left me with the kids on saturday to get a couple items from the grocery store and return some movies... 3 hrs later she came back and had not even returned the movies or gotten the groceries. she tried pulling the same trick today and I just said, sure no problem, but dont think i will come home this week and she could cancel her plans for the next weekend because I would rather get a hotel room and study then let her shenanigans make me fail a certification. she thought I was joking, until I picked up the phone and started calling marriot to redeem my points.
funny thing is that my wife worked for an IT company before we had kids and knows what certs are worth in the hiring process, but she could care less when it comes to me if it interferes with her "needs"
I got married becasue I want to spend time with my wife, and I work beacuse I enjouyt the field I work in.
To me there has never been a problem balancing the two. TO me studying is a hobbie and I treat it as any one would treat a hobby, while boht me and my wife appriciate that we both should have time to spend on our own hobbies it should not take up all our time and there should still be time for family life.
It works like this, if I want to watch movies every night, play computer games and study at the expensise of our relationship then she expects me to cut back on some of them. But its my chosie what to cut back on. I just can't moan about her not letting me study if I am out every night with mates and playing computer games till 3am.
In reality I find studying / Learning for more intersting and reqwarding than playing games, so I spend about 3 - 4 hours a night doing it (mostly after wife has gone to bed, as she like to go to bed early and i would rather spend time with her while she is awake than hidden away in a room on my owwn)
And the Wife never gets a chance call me out, she is constenly reminded about what I am up to by being bored to death with the later things I have lernt
I think have an intresting in your partners career and enjoying learning what they are up to makes a big difference. My wife may not have a clue about how a webserver works or what Linux is. But the fact can turn an old phone in to a media home server she finds fasinating!
That statement made my day! Well done!
They all do and the reason is simple: They can't do it.
p.s. All US presidents and heads of United Nations have been men and I'm sure their wives too sabotaged:)
LOL. Guess who invented electricity, radio, TV and the Internet? LOL!
She encourages me to study, and I encourage her to study.
She reminded me recently that it's been a few months since my last test, so I hopefully get something under my belt before the new year.
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i reminded my wife yesterday that even though I got the vouchers for half price it would cost full price for the retake voucher and it would come out of her christmas present fund.... that has seemed to change her tune at least for now.
Does your wife ( be honest here) spend more time with the kids than you do? I hear lots of coworkers complain about having to watch "the kids" and it seems like its not a 50/50 but more a 90/10 deal. I had to send my wife to the movies and the mall this weekend because I knew she was hitting that burn out point, due to my work commute she has to handle more of the day to day tasks, I do what I can but she is around our son more.
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My wife doesnt understand this IT stuff so I have to sneak away and study..
My first certification she was on-board and then I got my 2nd and 3rd and that's when she started asking when these paid off LOL. I really didn't have an answer so now she has become anti certification and thinks they are a waste of time and money.
She is a nurse so once she get her CCRN (Critical Care Certification), she will automatically get a pay increase. [~5%] If she decided to get her CNA via Master Degree program she will get a 150% pay increase. Certifications to her mean more money and more knowledge. In IT they generally mean more knowledge and sometimes more money, usually not.
My wife is pretty good about letting me study. Most of the time I get time to read or watch CBT Nuggets when the baby is asleep.
Whoa whoa whoa - They can't do what? Get certified and work in IT? If that's what you're saying then wow that's totally sexist! Women are treated as second class citizens to us males (for no reason) and this attitude is the reason why. Jeez.
Sorry that the majority of the TE members wives aren't supportive - but don't put it all on them. Communication is key, unless you explain to them what you're doing and why - then they have no idea. I've explained it to my girlfriend, and she's 100% supportive. My girlfriend's father works in IT as well, and her mother is 100% supportive too. Why? Because of communication, something that is lacking in majority of relationships.
FYI - a woman invented the compiler and the COBOL language. (As well as the circular saw, windshield wiper, and Kevlar to name a few).
Excellent point about communication. We talked quite a bit about my wanting to get my B.S. in IT and once I showed my wife some of the positions I would qualify for once I've completed my degree and she is on-board now.
She says that everyone else's computer comes before hers... LOL
She complains about how "slow" her computer is... and wants me to fix it, however I'm working on THE SAME hardware/software combo as she is (I even gave up a gig of ram to appease her) and she won't take the advice that it's something she's doing or a program she is running (I've been over it a thousand times... can't find any malware or anything that makes it slow). She has ALWAYS (for the last 10 years) complained that her computer is slow... and mine is always faster. Well, that's because she just surfs the net and I do more (well, I DID more.. until recently) So, a few years ago, I bought us both the EXACT same laptop... (then upgraded mine from 2GB to 4GB of RAM... she got something else instead)... still complaining.
Sometimes there's nothing we can do. LOL
Edit: When she asks me some off-the-wall question... and I don't have an answer ready for her (or the answer is too drawn out to explain) and I say "I don't know"... she says... "Well, you're in IT, it's your JOB to know." LOL...
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