Seeking help for packet loss, network latency on lan

Hi,

For days now I am trying to find the cause for packet loss on my own lan to any other IP on the lan, also the router/gateway IP. I am running debian 12 os on a poweredge r420 server. I run mtr 192.168.178.1 and ghet a 15% packet loss which can also be noticed in the games which are served by the server to the internet. I have no idea what top trouble shoot next. There is a xen-bridge on the nic.

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my /etc/network/interfaces is this:

auto eno1
iface eno1 inet dhcp   (no cable is connected to eno1)

iface eno2 inet manual

auto xenbr0
iface xenbr0 inet dhcp

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ip link shows

 ip addr
1: lo: <LOOPBACK,UP,LOWER_UP> mtu 65536 qdisc noqueue state UNKNOWN group default qlen 1000
    link/loopback 00:00:00:00:00:00 brd 00:00:00:00:00:00
    inet 127.0.0.1/8 scope host lo
       valid_lft forever preferred_lft forever
2: eno1: <NO-CARRIER,BROADCAST,MULTICAST,UP> mtu 1500 qdisc mq state DOWN group default qlen 1000
    link/ether f0:1f:af:e8:bc:7b brd ff:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff
    altname enp2s0f0
3: eno2: <BROADCAST,MULTICAST,UP,LOWER_UP> mtu 1500 qdisc mq master xenbr0 state UP group default qlen 1000
    link/ether f0:1f:af:e8:bc:7c brd ff:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff
    altname enp2s0f1
4: xenbr0: <BROADCAST,MULTICAST,UP,LOWER_UP> mtu 1500 qdisc noqueue state UP group default qlen 1000
    link/ether 62:59:16:4a:b5:a1 brd ff:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff
    inet 192.168.178.80/24 brd 192.168.178.255 scope global dynamic xenbr0
       valid_lft 519321sec preferred_lft 519321sec
5: vif1.0-emu: <BROADCAST,MULTICAST,UP,LOWER_UP> mtu 1500 qdisc fq_codel master xenbr0 state UNKNOWN group default qlen 1000
    link/ether fe:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff brd ff:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff
6: vif1.0: <NO-CARRIER,BROADCAST,MULTICAST,UP> mtu 1500 qdisc mq master xenbr0 state DOWN group default qlen 1000
    link/ether fe:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff brd ff:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff
10: vif3.0: <BROADCAST,MULTICAST,UP,LOWER_UP> mtu 1500 qdisc mq master xenbr0 state UP group default qlen 1000
    link/ether fe:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff brd ff:ff:ff:ff:ff:ff

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ip route shows

default via 192.168.178.1 dev xenbr0
192.168.178.0/24 dev xenbr0 proto kernel scope link src 192.168.178.80

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lsof -i shows

COMMAND     PID     USER   FD   TYPE DEVICE SIZE/OFF NODE NAME
avahi-dae   886    avahi   12u  IPv4  33868      0t0  UDP *:mdns
avahi-dae   886    avahi   13u  IPv6  33869      0t0  UDP *:mdns
avahi-dae   886    avahi   14u  IPv4  33870      0t0  UDP *:37540
avahi-dae   886    avahi   15u  IPv6  33871      0t0  UDP *:50366
dhclient    987     root    7u  IPv4  25652      0t0  UDP *:bootpc
dhclient   1184     root    7u  IPv4  24719      0t0  UDP *:bootpc
glances    1234     root    4u  IPv4  12433      0t0  TCP localhost:61209 (LISTEN)
sshd       1272     root    3u  IPv4  34897      0t0  TCP *:ssh (LISTEN)
sshd       1272     root    4u  IPv6  34899      0t0  TCP *:ssh (LISTEN)
apache2    1303     root    3u  IPv4  41041      0t0  TCP *:http (LISTEN)
master     1718     root   13u  IPv4  12475      0t0  TCP *:smtp (LISTEN)
master     1718     root   14u  IPv6  12476      0t0  TCP *:smtp (LISTEN)
xen-qemu-  2052     root   11u  IPv4  37129      0t0  TCP localhost:5900 (LISTEN)
apache2    4842 www-data    3u  IPv4  41041      0t0  TCP *:http (LISTEN)
apache2    4844 www-data    3u  IPv4  41041      0t0  TCP *:http (LISTEN)
apache2    4845 www-data    3u  IPv4  41041      0t0  TCP *:http (LISTEN)
cupsd      4901     root    7u  IPv4  82038      0t0  TCP localhost:ipp (LISTEN)
sshd      10134     root    4u  IPv4  97733      0t0  TCP DsrvSKYNET:ssh->98-155-210-87.ftth.glasoperator.nl:35868 (ESTABLISHED)
sshd      10165  sunyata    4u  IPv4  97733      0t0  TCP DsrvSKYNET:ssh->98-155-210-87.ftth.glasoperator.nl:35868 (ESTABLISHED)
WSServer- 13149 soulmask   15u  IPv4 143397      0t0  TCP localhost:44989 (LISTEN)
WSServer- 13149 soulmask   19u  IPv4 143399      0t0  UDP *:27017
WSServer- 13149 soulmask   23u  IPv4 140915      0t0  TCP localhost:18888 (LISTEN)
WSServer- 13149 soulmask   35u  IPv4 122628      0t0  UDP *:7784
WSServer- 13149 soulmask   37u  IPv4 140916      0t0  TCP *:27020 (LISTEN)
WSServer- 13149 soulmask   45u  IPv4 143412      0t0  TCP DsrvSKYNET:37253->185.25.182.52:27037 (ESTABLISHED)
xen-qemu- 13906     root   11u  IPv4 149739      0t0  TCP localhost:5901 (LISTEN)
sshd      15664     root    4u  IPv4 163974      0t0  TCP DsrvSKYNET:ssh->98-155-210-87.ftth.glasoperator.nl:52162 (ESTABLISHED)
sshd      15672  sunyata    4u  IPv4 163974      0t0  TCP DsrvSKYNET:ssh->98-155-210-87.ftth.glasoperator.nl:52162 (ESTABLISHED)

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netstat -s shows

Ip:
    Forwarding: 2
    1261245 total packets received
    9 with invalid headers
    4 with invalid addresses
    0 forwarded
    0 incoming packets discarded
    1248166 incoming packets delivered
    837064 requests sent out
    240 dropped because of missing route
Icmp:
    8288 ICMP messages received
    6 input ICMP message failed
    ICMP input histogram:
        destination unreachable: 315
        timeout in transit: 519
        echo requests: 47
        echo replies: 7407
    9757 ICMP messages sent
    0 ICMP messages failed
    ICMP output histogram:
        destination unreachable: 297
        echo requests: 9413
        echo replies: 47
IcmpMsg:
        InType0: 7407
        InType3: 315
        InType8: 47
        InType11: 519
        OutType0: 47
        OutType3: 297
        OutType8: 9413
Tcp:
    2515 active connection openings
    44 passive connection openings
    1175 failed connection attempts
    3 connection resets received
    3 connections established
    947497 segments received
    658901 segments sent out
    2599 segments retransmitted
    1 bad segments received
    1847 resets sent
Udp:
    211857 packets received
    8 packets to unknown port received
    0 packet receive errors
    169041 packets sent
    0 receive buffer errors
    0 send buffer errors
    IgnoredMulti: 79823
UdpLite:
TcpExt:
    992 TCP sockets finished time wait in fast timer
    7 packets rejected in established connections because of timestamp
    2037 delayed acks sent
    1 delayed acks further delayed because of locked socket
    Quick ack mode was activated 42 times
    39832 packet headers predicted
    16467 acknowledgments not containing data payload received
    40030 predicted acknowledgments
    TCPSackRecovery: 144
    TCPDSACKUndo: 77
    56 congestion windows recovered without slow start after partial ack
    TCPLostRetransmit: 24
    TCPSackFailures: 2
    300 fast retransmits
    377 retransmits in slow start
    TCPTimeouts: 398
    TCPLossProbes: 1683
    TCPLossProbeRecovery: 614
    TCPSackRecoveryFail: 3
    TCPBacklogCoalesce: 2861
    TCPDSACKOldSent: 179
    TCPDSACKOfoSent: 49
    TCPDSACKRecv: 654
    301 connections reset due to unexpected data
    2 connections reset due to early user close
    1 connections aborted due to timeout
    TCPDSACKIgnoredNoUndo: 358
    TCPSackShifted: 91
    TCPSackMerged: 123
    TCPSackShiftFallback: 536
    TCPRcvCoalesce: 538691
    TCPOFOQueue: 6110
    TCPOFOMerge: 49
    TCPChallengeACK: 2
    TCPSYNChallenge: 1
    TCPSpuriousRtxHostQueues: 3
    TCPAutoCorking: 16873
    TCPFromZeroWindowAdv: 3
    TCPToZeroWindowAdv: 3
    TCPSynRetrans: 18
    TCPOrigDataSent: 75702
    TCPHystartTrainDetect: 2
    TCPHystartTrainCwnd: 46
    TCPHystartDelayDetect: 2
    TCPHystartDelayCwnd: 87
    TCPACKSkippedPAWS: 3
    TCPKeepAlive: 2
    TCPDelivered: 77072
    TCPAckCompressed: 4842
    TcpTimeoutRehash: 397
    TCPDSACKRecvSegs: 654
IpExt:
    InMcastPkts: 1260
    OutMcastPkts: 814
    InBcastPkts: 79829
    InOctets: 4851330675
    OutOctets: 114849976
    InMcastOctets: 97650
    OutMcastOctets: 43656
    InBcastOctets: 22505209
    InCsumErrors: 9
    InNoECTPkts: 3794573
    InECT0Pkts: 1

im out of idea's to investigate, please help ?