Weird question..

I'm currently a help desk tech for a large electrical contractor. I work in the corporate office so I need to dress accordingly. But, being a woman, women's clothes aren't all that great to be fixing computers & such in. Half the time I'm pulling down my shirt and pulling up my pants. (I know you're thinking "get a shirt that fits!" or "get a belt!") Well women's clothes don't work fit like men's and aren't meant that way. (I do wear buttons ups and pants).

Here's the thing. Outside of work, I do wear men's clothes. But one's that fit. On Friday's we're allowed to wear jeans & such. So I do wear men's jeans/shirts/etc. and no one says anything.
I was wondering if I should ask my boss if it's alright for me to wear men's clothes Monday - Thursday as well. Such as button ups tucked nicely into khakis/slacks w/ a belt. (I'll even wear a tie like the rest of the guys if I have to)

You all have seen my picture, so don't go pointing the finger saying I'm "butch" or trying to be a "man"...

Anyways, should I e-mail my boss and ask him if it's ok? Or should I just do it?
If I should e-mail him, what should I say?

Thanks,

-Fade

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Ricka182

I would request to meet with him and explain the situation. Make sure he knows you're trying to be professional like the others, but the clothing you have to wear tends to reveal too much when you're doing your job. I would think meeting with him in person can send a message better then email...he may see you really want to do you're best, but this speedbump needs to be addressed......

dynamik

FadeToBright wrote:

You all have seen my picture, so don't go pointing the finger saying I'm "butch" or trying to be a "man"...

Only as long as you don't mock me for my penchant for evening gowns :sexy: (why isn't their an emoticon for that!?)

Seriously though, you can't find women's clothes that'll work for you? I guess I'm confused as to what you're doing that makes them so problematic. I can understand dresses, skirts, etc., but I don't see why dress pants/shirts would make things so difficult.

vCole

dynamik wrote:

FadeToBright wrote:

You all have seen my picture, so don't go pointing the finger saying I'm "butch" or trying to be a "man"...

Only as long as you don't mock me for my penchant for evening gowns :sexy: (why isn't their an emoticon for that!?)

Seriously though, you can't find women's clothes that'll work for you? I guess I'm confused as to what you're doing that makes them so problematic. I can understand dresses, skirts, etc., but I don't see why dress pants/shirts would make things so difficult.

They're quiet....tight. They're just not meant for physical work, you know?

jryantech

Yes, I go with Ricka182... Request a quick meeting and explain the situation.

Definitely do not just "Do it", your not working for Nike

Also might I mind asking what is the daily work is for a "help desk tech for a large electrical contractor"?

vCole

Ricka182 wrote:

I would request to meet with him and explain the situation. Make sure he knows you're trying to be professional like the others, but the clothing you have to wear tends to reveal too much when you're doing your job. I would think meeting with him in person can send a message better then email...he may see you really want to do you're best, but this speedbump needs to be addressed......

So I should send him an e-mail requesting a personal meeting with him? I really don't know what to say.

vCole

jryantech wrote:

Yes, I go with Ricka182... Request a quick meeting and explain the situation.

Definitely do not just "Do it", I'm sure your not working for Nike

Also might I mind asking what is the daily work is for a "help desk tech for a large electrical contractor"?

Anything from installing a printer to setting up a server.

I get lots of experience here.

jryantech

FadeToBright wrote:

Ricka182 wrote:

I would request to meet with him and explain the situation. Make sure he knows you're trying to be professional like the others, but the clothing you have to wear tends to reveal too much when you're doing your job. I would think meeting with him in person can send a message better then email...he may see you really want to do you're best, but this speedbump needs to be addressed......

So I should send him an e-mail requesting a personal meeting with him? I really don't know what to say.

Say this:

I work in the corporate office so I need to dress accordingly. But, being a woman, women's clothes aren't all that great to be fixing computers & such in. Half the time I'm pulling down my shirt and pulling up my pants. (I know you're thinking "get a shirt that fits!" or "get a belt!") Well women's clothes don't work fit like men's and aren't meant that way. (I do wear buttons ups and pants).

Here's the thing. Outside of work, I do wear men's clothes. But one's that fit. On Friday's we're allowed to wear jeans & such. So I do wear men's jeans/shirts/etc. and no one says anything.
I was wondering if I should ask my boss if it's alright for me to wear men's clothes Monday - Thursday as well. Such as button ups tucked nicely into khakis/slacks w/ a belt. (I'll even wear a tie like the rest of the guys if I have to)

supertechCETma

Androgynous is always in style.

vCole

supertechCETma wrote:

Androgynous is always in style.

That's exactly how I roll.

vCole

jryantech wrote:

FadeToBright wrote:

Ricka182 wrote:

I would request to meet with him and explain the situation. Make sure he knows you're trying to be professional like the others, but the clothing you have to wear tends to reveal too much when you're doing your job. I would think meeting with him in person can send a message better then email...he may see you really want to do you're best, but this speedbump needs to be addressed......

So I should send him an e-mail requesting a personal meeting with him? I really don't know what to say.

Say this:

I work in the corporate office so I need to dress accordingly. But, being a woman, women's clothes aren't all that great to be fixing computers & such in. Half the time I'm pulling down my shirt and pulling up my pants. (I know you're thinking "get a shirt that fits!" or "get a belt!") Well women's clothes don't work fit like men's and aren't meant that way. (I do wear buttons ups and pants).

Here's the thing. Outside of work, I do wear men's clothes. But one's that fit. On Friday's we're allowed to wear jeans & such. So I do wear men's jeans/shirts/etc. and no one says anything.
I was wondering if I should ask my boss if it's alright for me to wear men's clothes Monday - Thursday as well. Such as button ups tucked nicely into khakis/slacks w/ a belt. (I'll even wear a tie like the rest of the guys if I have to)

Well I meant in the e-mail requesting a meeting with him.

snadam

FadeToBright wrote:

jryantech wrote:

FadeToBright wrote:

Ricka182 wrote:

I would request to meet with him and explain the situation. Make sure he knows you're trying to be professional like the others, but the clothing you have to wear tends to reveal too much when you're doing your job. I would think meeting with him in person can send a message better then email...he may see you really want to do you're best, but this speedbump needs to be addressed......

So I should send him an e-mail requesting a personal meeting with him? I really don't know what to say.

Say this:

I work in the corporate office so I need to dress accordingly. But, being a woman, women's clothes aren't all that great to be fixing computers & such in. Half the time I'm pulling down my shirt and pulling up my pants. (I know you're thinking "get a shirt that fits!" or "get a belt!") Well women's clothes don't work fit like men's and aren't meant that way. (I do wear buttons ups and pants).

Here's the thing. Outside of work, I do wear men's clothes. But one's that fit. On Friday's we're allowed to wear jeans & such. So I do wear men's jeans/shirts/etc. and no one says anything.
I was wondering if I should ask my boss if it's alright for me to wear men's clothes Monday - Thursday as well. Such as button ups tucked nicely into khakis/slacks w/ a belt. (I'll even wear a tie like the rest of the guys if I have to)

Well I meant in the e-mail requesting a meeting with him.

Just tell him/her that you are having issues with the work dress code and was wondering if you can discuss what can be considered acceptable.

vCole

My boss okayed it. Looks like we're in business!

snadam

FadeToBright wrote:

My boss okayed it. Looks like we're in business!

there you go! I always think the professional approach is the most noble and effective. Glad its worked out!

vCole

snadam wrote:

FadeToBright wrote:

My boss okayed it. Looks like we're in business!

there you go! I always think the professional approach is the most noble and effective. Glad its worked out!

He said he was glad that I was concerned and asked before doing it.

LarryDaMan

FadeToBright wrote:

I'm currently a help desk tech for a large electrical contractor. I work in the corporate office so I need to dress accordingly. But, being a woman, women's clothes aren't all that great to be fixing computers & such in. Half the time I'm pulling down my shirt and pulling up my pants. (I know you're thinking "get a shirt that fits!" or "get a belt!") Well women's clothes don't work fit like men's and aren't meant that way. (I do wear buttons ups and pants).

Here's the thing. Outside of work, I do wear men's clothes. But one's that fit. On Friday's we're allowed to wear jeans & such. So I do wear men's jeans/shirts/etc. and no one says anything.
I was wondering if I should ask my boss if it's alright for me to wear men's clothes Monday - Thursday as well. Such as button ups tucked nicely into khakis/slacks w/ a belt. (I'll even wear a tie like the rest of the guys if I have to)

You all have seen my picture, so don't go pointing the finger saying I'm "butch" or trying to be a "man"...

Anyways, should I e-mail my boss and ask him if it's ok? Or should I just do it?
If I should e-mail him, what should I say?

Thanks,

-Fade

Easy one. Get a lab/shop coat. I wear one at work from time to time and they keep your clothes clean too... an added advantage is that you get to look like a scientist...

vCole

larrydaman wrote:

FadeToBright wrote:

I'm currently a help desk tech for a large electrical contractor. I work in the corporate office so I need to dress accordingly. But, being a woman, women's clothes aren't all that great to be fixing computers & such in. Half the time I'm pulling down my shirt and pulling up my pants. (I know you're thinking "get a shirt that fits!" or "get a belt!") Well women's clothes don't work fit like men's and aren't meant that way. (I do wear buttons ups and pants).

Here's the thing. Outside of work, I do wear men's clothes. But one's that fit. On Friday's we're allowed to wear jeans & such. So I do wear men's jeans/shirts/etc. and no one says anything.
I was wondering if I should ask my boss if it's alright for me to wear men's clothes Monday - Thursday as well. Such as button ups tucked nicely into khakis/slacks w/ a belt. (I'll even wear a tie like the rest of the guys if I have to)

You all have seen my picture, so don't go pointing the finger saying I'm "butch" or trying to be a "man"...

Anyways, should I e-mail my boss and ask him if it's ok? Or should I just do it?
If I should e-mail him, what should I say?

Thanks,

-Fade

Easy one. Get a lab/shop coat. I wear one at work from time to time and they keep your clothes clean too... an added advantage is that you get to look like a scientist...

I wish I could, this would be sweet!

Slowhand

FadeToBright wrote:

supertechCETma wrote:

Androgynous is always in style.

That's exactly how I roll.

Damn skippy.

vCole

Slowhand wrote:

FadeToBright wrote:

supertechCETma wrote:

Androgynous is always in style.

That's exactly how I roll.

Damn skippy.

Wish I could watch it at work

Gotta remember to see it when I go to the girlfriend's tonight.

Lee H

You all have seen my picture, so don't go pointing the finger saying I'm "butch" or trying to be a "man"...

I havent seen your pic, were can i view it, always nice to put a face on a name

Lee H

Sie

http://www.techexams.net/forums/viewtopic.php?p=211599#211599

Except now I look like a stalker!!

I did have to search for it, honest!!

Lee H

Very nice indeed

Pash

FadeToBright wrote:

You all have seen my picture, so don't go pointing the finger saying I'm "butch" or trying to be a "man"...

I gave in to being butch years ago.

You go girl!

bertieb

Pash wrote:

I gave in to being butch years ago.

ROFLMAO.

Nice look Pash, must take you a while to apply all that make up

Lee H

I gave in to being butch years ago

I just nearly fell of my chair

Mishra

I'm actually real suprised a 'post your real pic here' thread has never been started here.

Ricka182

Mishra wrote:

I'm actually real suprised a 'post your real pic here' thread has never been started here.

Can you really believe it's a real pic though?.........Anyone could post someone else, and have everyone here believe it........I know honesty is, or at least should be part of our lives, but some just don't care.

vCole

Mishra wrote:

I'm actually real suprised a 'post your real pic here' thread has never been started here.

I am as well. Although, you can just check out my myspace:

http://www.myspace.com/thesesummerscars

Mishra

I think a suprising amount of people here don't even have myspace to view your page.

scheistermeister

So do you get to wear the Optimus Prime helmet to work too? That would be SCHWEET!

undomiel

I don't have myspace and I'm proud of it!