The Handshake...

Remedymp

Have any of you members here met someone for the first time either in a job interview or social networking wise where the guy gives a handshake that is crushing?

I usually don't complain about a firm handshake if we're making a deal. But, to try and crush my grip I take that a sign of disrespect.

Any opinions on this?

Blucodex

Meh, once or twice. Or they don't want to let go. I laugh to be honest and feel like they are overcompensating. I grew up playing sports and still do so tough guys are something I've been around enough and I don't get intimidated. I walk away thinking "what a tool".

But yea, I have a firm enough handshake that if someone wanted to really squeeze it would be really easy to apply ample pressure to not get crushed and let them know IDGAF.

scaredoftests

I love a firm handshake and I am a woman.

PC509

Firm handshakes are good. Extremely hard, something to prove, handshakes are not. They are about the same as a limp noodle handshake. A nice, firm, confident handshake is perfect, though. Don't break their hand, but show some confidence.

And if it's a woman, you have to do the hand kiss thing. It's only appropriate.

scaredoftests

hand kiss? nooo... LOL

Remedymp

PC509 wrote: »

Firm handshakes are good. Extremely hard, something to prove, handshakes are not. They are about the same as a limp noodle handshake. A nice, firm, confident handshake is perfect, though. Don't break their hand, but show some confidence.

And if it's a woman, you have to do the hand kiss thing. It's only appropriate.

In this country, you can't kiss a woman's hand. That will lead right into a Level 1.

PC509

I know. It was a joke. You can't do it here, either.

blatini

Yes I've interviewed at Trump Tower several times

zeitgeist29

I had a woman try to crush my hand when I was sitting next to her on a flight. She said it wasn't firm enough and weak. : ( But that may have been due to the plate and 4 screws and my lack of grip strength from my boxers fracture...but I digress...Super alphas gotta try to intimidate you...especially if you're a perceived threat.

volfkhat

blatini wrote: »

Yes I've interviewed at Trump Tower several times

Bwahahahahaha!

thomas_

If they try to crush your hand with their handshake, then you take your other hand and put it on top of their hand while shaking it to show that you have won the handshake p*ssing contest.

dmoore44

I generally try to match the 'firmness' with which my hand is shook. If some is absolutely attempting to crush my hand, I go ahead and (attempt to) reciprocate.

SpetsRepair

Blucodex wrote: »

Meh, once or twice. Or they don't want to let go. I laugh to be honest and feel like they are overcompensating. I grew up playing sports and still do so tough guys are something I've been around enough and I don't get intimidated. I walk away thinking "what a tool".
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Travel to remote depts, visit other areas of our business etc..

Guy in the office doesn't let go of my hand and just holds on to it while I'm talking to him, not saying I have a problem with it but I'm not a fan of the "Social office" games/politics most people play...

Mooseboost

I typically give a firm handshake, but I try to gauge the grip strength of who I am shaking hands with and adjust accordingly. My goal is to have my handshake have a feel similar to a compression shirt - snug and contoured without being overly tight.

If they squeeze a bit harder I adjust.

Blucodex

SpetsRepair wrote: »

Travel to remote depts, visit other areas of our business etc..

Guy in the office doesn't let go of my hand and just holds on to it while I'm talking to him, not saying I have a problem with it but I'm not a fan of the "Social office" games/politics most people play...

Personally, I find this VERY rude. What's the point? Thanks for the heads up that you're a jackass!

OctalDump

Not sure I would judge someone too much from a handshake normally. But if they try to hurt me, I tend to think they might have issues. I think Modi has it right: go in for the hug.

scaredoftests

I will just do the 'fish'. slap each other on the wrist to elbow like a fish. Great conversation starter. Always cracks me up.

p@r0tuXus

My greeting shakes are always firm but curt, one good dip and lift. Unless it's a first date or at a funeral, then lingering a little with contact can be comforting and encouraging.

Diminutive

Mine are a little too firm. Sometimes I get the crusher in response and my hands are on the smaller side so its not awesome for me. Still as long as I get the meat under the thumb on their meat its usually fine. Still need to consciously moderate it.

NetworkNewb

I reciprocate with maximum force and won't stop until they bow to awesomeness that is my handshake! Have yet to meet a formidable foe.

ElGato127

Remedymp wrote: »

In this country, you can't kiss a woman's hand. That will lead right into a Level 1.

What the heck is a Level 1?

CiscoASA2202

scaredoftests wrote: »

I will just do the 'fish'. slap each other on the wrist to elbow like a fish. Great conversation starter. Always cracks me up.

My boss is a fish hand shaker, I find it very odd

Ertaz

Subordinates have to kiss the ring. Anything else is pure disrespect...

GeekyChick

ElGato127 wrote: »

What the heck is a Level 1?

That's when you mix up your cyber risk level with "first base" and realize you work too much.

scaredoftests

CiscoASA2202 wrote: »

My boss is a fish hand shaker, I find it very odd

Oh Come on! It is funny, brings a smile to your lips?

ElGato127

GeekyChick wrote: »

That's when you mix up your cyber risk level with "first base" and realize you work too much.

That's pretty funny.

BTW, just noticed the Sec+ on your profile. Is that new? Congrats.

ITSec14

What about when you go for a handshake and the other person grabs just for fingers? It's the feeling of being hopeless and weak...

GeekyChick

ElGato127 wrote: »

That's pretty funny.

BTW, just noticed the Sec+ on your profile. Is that new? Congrats.

I hope it made sense. It did to me, but it was late at night when I wrote that and I was a little goofy.

Yep, thanks for noticing. I just passed Sec+ in May. Very glad to have that over.

UnixGuy

Not an interview, but an auditor from Big4 (KPMG? I can't remember)...did that, and I think he was trying to impress me. All the signs were there, he wasn't very bright but he was a nice guy


I wouldn't read too much into it, some people do it out of habit or they think it's cool

clarkincnet

I used to teach college classes for fun at night. One of the classes I taught was aimed at helping graduates acquire the skills necessary find a job. We would practice resumes, interview questions, LinkedIn skills, etc. I taught a very interactive class and always had students in front of the class trying things out. When I started to teach handshakes, I would always start off talking about having too heavy of a hand when shaking. I would then have the biggest, toughest guy come forward and I'd give him the limp wrist handshake - which always got a reaction! It showed that you have to be prepared for anything!

inverse_one

Just be glad they don't try a three-way-handshake to make sure you received the handshake