Destination Addiction

DatabaseHead

https://www.robertholden.com/blog/what-is-destination-addiction/

Interesting concept.

This hit home with me and I know a lot of people on this forum have some sort of version of this

Jon_Cisco

I think this is common but I also suspect it has been a problem for all of time.

SpetsRepair

Sounds like my problem

DatabaseHead

For instance I don't know a thing about either of you, but when I look at your certification credentials I see two accomplished IT professionals, at least from an academic scope.

But do you feel that way about yourselves?

I struggle with this very thing myself.

PC509

A lot of that sounds like me. But, some of it is necessary. Always looking forward to the next thing. I like to be prepared, always like to keep learning. But, there is always something better I'm striving for. The next big thing will be where I get successful.

I never really thought I was doing ok until my niece got accepted to a local state college. I told her congratulations and I'm proud of her. She told me that I was who she looked up to and I inspire her. Happy tears came from that, and I felt like I was successful. But, not to rest on my laurels, either. But, I feel good.

dave330i

Awesome. Next time wife tells me I've settled, I'll show her this link.

UnixGuy

I recommended this book before and I'll recommend it again: How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life


Being goal oriented is a recipe for disappointment, because you're constantly chasing that goal and fee inadequate until you reach that goal. Scott Adams recommend having a system rather than a goal. Read the book if you want to understand what that means

thomas_

UnixGuy wrote: »

I recommended this book before and I'll recommend it again: How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big: Kind of the Story of My Life


Being goal oriented is a recipe for disappointment, because you're constantly chasing that goal and fee inadequate until you reach that goal. Scott Adams recommend having a system rather than a goal. Read the book if you want to understand what that means

This kind of reminds me of something ai heard about it’s better to tell your children they are hard-workers rather than telling them they are smart. I can’t remember the reasoning, but I think it helps them deal with failure/adversity better. Something along the lines of you can building self-confidence based on factors they can control, level of effort, versus something they can’t control such as intellectual capacity. I believe it also had something to do with internalizing failure if you told you were smart instead of just working harder the next time.

JustanotherITguy

Good read

snokerpoker

Interesting topic. I am guilty of this from time to time. Thanks for sharing.